Q. Is an agreement written by a mediator and executed by the parties as legally binding as a separation agreement written by attorneys?

A. Yes.  Each agreement will then be incorporated into the divorce judgment to become enforceable as a court order.

Q. Do I have to go to court?

A. Usually both parties must attend the final hearing at court.  We recommend that both parties attend to answer any questions the court may have and to achieve some emotional closure.  However, at times, the court may allow the case to go forward with only one party present.

Q. How long does it take to get a divorce?

A. It takes approximately four months from the time the divorce papers are served until the parties can go to court for the final hearing.  However, it can take much longer, depending on whether the parties engage in litigation or take a longer time to reach an agreement.

Q. Is Connecticut a community property state?

A. No.  This means that in Connecticut each spouse is not automatically entitled to half the property of the other spouse.

Q. How is the length and amount of alimony determined?

A. The legal factors include the age, health, occupation, amount and source of income, vocational skills, employability, estate, liabilities and needs of the parties, the opportunity of each for future acquisition of capital, assets and income, the contribution of each of the parties in the acquisition, preservation or appreciation of the assets, the needs of the parties, and the causes of the divorce. There is no set formula for the length or amount of alimony but case law does provide some guidance.

Q. Will I be taken advantage of by my spouse if I choose Divorce Mediation rather than litigating my divorce?

A. Not if you have hired an experienced and knowledgeable mediator.  IDR Mediators are conscious of possible power imbalances in a relationship.  Also, full disclosure of all assets, liabilities, income and expenses must be made by both parties in a divorce.

Q. How is child support calculated?

A. The State of Connecticut has established Child Support Guidelines which are used to determine child support